Living by my values

During my journey, one of the most defining moments was when I listed and began living by my core values. When considering my values, I had to determine what was the most important thing to me at that moment in my life. You see, values will change as you achieve goals, get older, or reevaluate their importance.  They are what you can always look back on to see if you are truly aligned with the life that you desire. When I was not intentionally living by my values, I did not know why I was doing certain things nor did I have any real motivating factors.  To put it bluntly, I was just floating through life with no real direction. Once I knew and lived by my values, I was able to make all of my decision based on them. Life began to get very easy because there was no confusion or questioning if things were right or wrong.  When making decisions on relationships, business, activities, events, and everything that had to do with day to day life I would think back to my values. If the decision was aligned with my values I would move forward, and if they were not then I would know that it was not the right choice for me.  Once my values were determined, every goal I made had a purpose and every opportunity that I chose to act upon moved me closer to those goals.     

In determining my core values, I first decided to categorize the different areas of my life.   I needed to decide what I was going to focus on first whether it was career values, relationship values, family values, spiritual values, wealth/money values, quality of life/personal values, or health values.  Knowing that all areas are important, I had to determine what was the MOST significant at this stage in my life.  I had to ask myself, “What do I really want? What is important to me right now, at this moment, in my life?” 

I decided to begin with my personal values and realized that many of these values carried over into every area of my life.  As I wrote down my values, I also added a few sentences describing why that value was of the upmost importance.  I was also able to combine certain values by doing this.  Here are a few of the values that I began with:

1. God- Having faith and knowing that God is always with me allows me to see the trials and challenges in my life as opportunities for growth (not just my successes). 
2. Meditation- Meditation allows me to have a sense of clarity and focus.  It keeps me calm and positive, seeing only possibilities and opportunities.  It is through meditation that I form and visualize my grandest visions.
3. Success- Success, to me, means adding value not only to my own life, but to the lives of others. I consider myself successful when I inspire and empower others to live up to and reach their full potential.
4. Personal Growth and Development- Continuing to grow and learn more about myself will, in turn, add value to everyone around me. It enhances my mind, spirit and confidence. The effects of personal growth and development are self reflection, openness, and taking responsibility for my life and its outcomes. When I become better, I attract better people, situations, and circumstances.
5. Authenticity-  Being authentic helps me to spread my message in a way that is comfortable to myself and others. People notice that I am compassionate, genuine, empathetic, respectful, willing to communicate and be of service to others. Being authentic leads to quality relationships which, in turn, leads to partnerships and collaborations towards the greater good of all.

Easily listed, these are my personal values:

God

meditation

vision

success

add value

inspire

empower

personal growth and development (living up to my fullest potential)

self reflection

openness

taking responsibility

authenticity

compassionate

empathetic

respectful

willing to communicate

service

quality relationships

Each bolded word is a value that I choose to live by.  I make choices and decisions based on these values because this is what I stand for and they are what is important in my life.  Interestingly enough, once I developed my list of personal values, I realized that these values carried over into other areas of my life.

What values do you live by?

De-clutter

As I was beginning my journey and looking for more simplicity, something that DESPERATELY needed to be done was de-cluttering my life.  When I say de-clutter I don’t just mean that I had some clothes on the ground of my bedroom or some bubble gum wrappers in my truck (which I did). I truly had to go through every area of my life and make room for the universe to bring me better.  You see I was holding on to things.  Mentally, physically, and emotionally I had junk piled up farther than anyone would be able to see.  How did I let it get so bad? Why did I continuously add to the buildup? Well, I suppose I thought that keeping certain feelings, thoughts, and physical items would keep me in control of my life.  I knew those things, I felt comfortable with those things (even if they didn’t serve me), and I thought I could control those things.  Another reason was because I had a shopping addiction.  I loved to shop because it made me feel good coming home with new things. The problem was that  I WAS EXPECTING THE “THINGS” TO KEEP ME HAPPY.  I never stopped to think of why I wasn’t happy without new “things”. I was genuinely convinced that shopping and obtaining new items would keep me happy.  Boy was I wrong!  It is quite the contrary actually. Holding on to things left no space for great things to come my way.  The old items, feelings, emotions, and thoughts literally put up barriers forcing any greatness to a halt. 

Once I made the choice to clean up my life I began slow and easy with my external world.  I knew that I wanted my life to be organized in every area and for everything to have its place. Once I began cleaning my external world, my internal world followed. You see, I started to feel good! I felt good about the letting items go, giving to the needy, the order of my new world, the appearance of things, and the space that was created.  When I felt good, I attracted more good! 

What did I do? 

(WARNING: This is time consuming but will completely pay off in the end!)

Bedroom/Closet

1. I bought a label maker.
2. I bought containers for my shoes, hats, toiletries, belts, bags, and anything else that might be lying around my closet.  On each of those containers I had a label for what belonged there. Check out http://www.containerstore.com  for some great organizing ideas! 
3. I went through my closet and dressers discarding any clothes, shoes, socks, hats, bags, bathing suits, and anything else that I had not worn or was not interested in keeping. (Three bags full went to the goodwill) 
4. I organized my closet by color beginning with dark colors and transitioning to lights.
5. I bought all white hangers so everything looked the same.
6. I moved my bedroom furniture around.  Check out http://www.dummies.com/how-to/content/applying-feng-shui-principles-to-your-bed.html  for the feng shui suggestions.
7. I cleaned out under my bed!! I didn’t realize how much junk was under there.  I had old papers from college, ex-boyfriend boxes, and random knick-knacks that served no purpose.
8. Finally I dusted, windex’d, vacuumed, cleaned every screen on my windows, and lit a few candles.  

WOW did I feel good after that day!!

Bathroom

I honestly never realized what a pack rat I was!  

1. I went through the linen closet and threw away any products that I hadn’t used in the past six months. I made sure to check expiration dates for any other products that I decided to keep. 
2. I refolded and organized any towels and wash clothes.
3. I bought a stick on shower organizer for extra products that did not fit on my shower shelves.
4. I bought new, more natural, bath products that were better for my body and environment.
5. I cleaned out the medicine cabinet of anything that had not been used (checked expiration dates)
6. I bought small containers for my Q-tips, cotton balls, tampons (sorry boys), band-aids, and anything else that needed a place.
7. I scrubbed my shower and sink areas.
8. I cleaned the floors and mirrors.

Ahhhhhhhh, that felt great!

Office/Computer 

(During this time I was an elementary school teacher so it was very difficult to keep my desk organized)

1. I got a filing cabinet.
2. I filed all lesson plans by month and seasons.
3. I bought different size bins for storage of books, and supplies for myself and the students.
4. I labeled EVERYTHING.
5. I had the students clean out their desks as I cleaned out mine so we could all know the importance of being organized.
6. On my computer, I saved any files from college to a flash drive and deleted them.
7. I placed all documents on my computer into labeled folders.

Boy, I just felt better and better!  :)

People, Places, Things (Personal Life)

1. Any person that did not make me happy I either stopped talking to or had limited contact with.
2. I stopped watching or reading anything that had to do with celebrity gossip.
3. I did not associate with gossipers or naysayers.  I would much rather have quality conversations.
4. I watched what I spent my money on.  I only bought things if I needed them or was absolutely in love.  In other words, I didn’t buy things just to buy them.
5. I listened to uplifting music or music that focused on love.  I personally prefer R&B music so I listened to a lot of Jennifer Hudson, Musiq Soulchild, John Legend, and anyone else that had a good, clean, positive message to send out.
6. I stopped going out on the town and chose to go to the library (my place of peace) and study instead.
7. I completely stopped drinking alcohol. Many times when alcohol was involved I made very questionable choices and I preferred a clear, focused mind instead.  
8. I did more than I was paid to do at work. People quickly noticed and began to comment.
9. I reconnected with my God.
10. I began to take my life seriously.

FREE Meditations: Meditationfest :)

Friends!! I have the best news! I have used many different meditation methods to enhance my life in every area.  Besides for the Silva Life System, there was  another program that made a huge impact on my life entitled Paraliminals by Paul Scheele.  During these meditations, you hear Paul Scheele speaking in both ears at the same time but telling you different affirmations and stories.  It is specifically done this way to stimulate the right and left brain.   I tell you this because Paul Sheele’s company “Learning Strategies” is holding a FREE event called “Meditationfest”.  The event begins on September 10, 2012 and lasts for six days. Each day a new meditation is sent to you from a different acclaimed mentor or teacher.  This is what the line up looks like:

Day 1:"Rebalancer" and "Abundance" Meditations by Spiritual Mentor Deirdre Hade 

Day 2:"Euphoria & Healing" Meditation by teacher, healer, and Qigong master Chunyi Lin

Day 3:"Conscious Awareness in the Present Moment" Meditation by Spiritual Mentor Jeddah Mali

Day 4:"Burning" Meditation by teacher and mentor Brian Osborne

Day 5:"Law of Attraction Tubes of Light" Meditation by Feng Shui master Marie Diamond 

Day 6:"Relaxation and Awareness" Meditation by Himalayan master Swami Veda Bharati 

Please, Please, Please do not miss this opportunity! It is completely FREE! Just go to the website for Meditationfest to get your Free pass.  Happy Meditating :)

Meditation

Throughout my journey I have randomly had annoying mental chatter that would creep in.  In the beginning, it was so bad to the point that it deterred me from achieving my goals.  One thing that I knew needed to be done was to quiet my mind.  When my mind was still, I was able to make clear and intentional decisions.  I was also able to see different paths to lead me to success.  So how did I quiet my mind?  Meditation! Truthfully, I had always thought meditation was a little “out there” and wasn’t for me. Why? I have no idea! I had never even tried it before.  There are so many benefits to meditation! To name a few, I personally reduced anxiety, was cured from headaches, had increased energy, was able to completely focus and concentrate, had increased creativity, developed impeccable intuition, was able to control my thoughts, gained greater wisdom, and experienced a feeling of oneness that I never knew existed.

My introduction to meditation came through a yoga/pilates class that I was involved in at my local gym.  At the end of the hour long class there was a 5-10 time span dedicated to a guided meditation or “relaxation”.  This time came to be one that I genuinely looked forward to every class. I finally asked the yoga instructor if i could buy the cd just for the meditation music and was told that they were not for sale.  I went home and immediately went on youtube to see what I could find that was similar.  The music that I found was really great and relaxing but there was one problem... I had no idea how to meditate.  I didn’t know what to do.  I sat with my legs crossed and eyes closed listening to the music. Now don’t get me wrong, it was relaxing but I was always one that needed more structure.  I went online and began my research for a guided meditation program that was right for me and came across The Silva Life System.  Truthfully, I didn’t buy the program for about three months.  I continuously thought about it and it frequently popped up. First it was through email, then I heard others talking about it, and finally, my sister had gone to a seminar and actually met Laura Silva!  I took that as a sign and went online to buy the program to realize that it was on sale for only $67!! SCORE!! I bought it and began the program immediately.

In case you needed a reminder of the physiological, psychological, and spiritual benefits that meditation provides, I have made a short list for you :)

• Stress reduction
• Assists in weight loss
• Aids in controlling thoughts
• Relaxation of the nervous system
• Increased energy
• Relieves headaches and migraines
• Helps in problem solving
• Builds and enhances self confidence, focus and concentration
• Increased sense of wisdom
• Helps in discovering one's purpose
• Allows for the feeling of enlightenment
• Decreases worry and feelings of restlessness  
• Allows for self acceptance
• Brings harmony to your mind, body and soul
• Influences positive moods and behavior through raised serotonin levels

I Promised Myself

When beginning my journey I made the declaration to myself to become better.  One day, not long after my commitment to change, I looked in an old cookbook in order to find a family recipe for Christmas cookies.  While searching through handwritten recipes from my mother and late great grandmother I stumbled upon this poem.  My great grandmother had written it out and lived her life by these words.  I’m convinced that she left it behind for a purpose.  I made the choice that day to live my life by these words and I haven’t looked back since.

I Promise Myself... by Christian D. Larson

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.